Our Best Plans … or His? {Guest Post by Lynn Cowell & Giveaway}

Our Best Plans … or His? {Guest Post by Lynn Cowell & Giveaway}

Are you raising daughters or granddaughters?

If so, you’ll want to lean-in close and get the scoop from my good friend, Lynn Cowell, who will be sharing with us today. Her expert advise and Biblical insight has the potential of transforming your young girl’s life!

As my life would have it, I’m raising teenage sons, BUT I’ve heard horror stories from some of my closest friends who are raising daughters. Words like “girl drama”, “insecurity sickness” and “boy crazy” come up a lot in our conversations.

Maybe those challenging words come up in your conversations too.

Do you want to equip your daughters and help them become confident God-loving young women?

Do you want to keep her from falling into the trap of looking for validation from guys, or seeking significance by striving to be part of the “popular” group?

So many thoughts can swirl in a young girl’s mind…

What does she have that I haven’t got?
Why doesn’t he ask me out?
What makes her popular? Why not me?
What’s wrong with me?

Maybe it’s time to help her change the questions she’s asking and instead help her to ask, “What does it take to become magnetic?”

Lynn has a brand-new book that’s just released: “Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants.”










Packed with revealing quizzes, interviews with guys and the tools she needs to become the girl she wants to be, Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants empowers her to:

    • Stop feeling powerless over her emotions and people’s opinions as she gains unshakeable confidence.
    • Limit the draining affect of “girl drama” so she can invest her time in becoming the best she can.
    • Replace the agonizing frustration of wanting to be noticed and liked with a deep assurance that she already is.

*** Lynn is giving away 2 copies of her book, Magnetic! I’ll have more details about the giveaway at the end of this post, but for now …

Here’s Lynn …  

Shaken and terrified, I forced myself to wake up. My dream felt so real my sadness threatened to carry into my day.

In my dream, my oldest daughter had gotten married and I had no part.

I wasn’t in on the news of neither the proposal nor the planning. No part whatsoever. In the dream, I sat in the back of the church watching everything take place. As her favorite music began to play, my mind swirled. My girl is getting married! Why am I just sitting here?

Rushing to the bride’s room, I found my girl. Her bridal outfit was a reflection of her unique style, completely different from anything I would have chosen.

She was fine; I was not.

When I awoke, I knew the dream wasn’t random. There was truth I needed to wake up to.

I can be one of those moms; yes, “those moms”. The ones with the built-in expectations. The ones with unspoken yet idealistic dreams of what “should be.”

The truth is God wants me to recognize my ideals, my plans, and my dreams are not always the best. But His are.

Isaiah 55:8 – 9 tells us God’s thoughts and our thoughts aren’t the same. His thoughts and His ways are always higher and better than our ways and thoughts.

Although I envision the perfect birthday, vacation or future wedding, God may have a different plan. A better plan. Maybe not “perfect” in the way I imagine, but perfect according to His plans and purposes.

This is especially hard as a mother. Wanting the very best for our kids, we can get our hearts set on what we think best looks like.

The problem comes when we forget the most important part of the plans: God’s thoughts and His ways.

Although there is value in our wisdom and experience, we must be intentional to give attention to God and His perfect wisdom for their future. Because without it, we can hinder the process of our children learning to hear from God for themselves.

While I can say I’m growing every day when it comes to expectations, I will always be on my knees asking God to help me because this struggle comes almost daily it seems. I find comfort, through the power of the Holy Spirit living in me, to come to God, surrendering my thoughts and plans to Him.

It’s there I can lay down my thoughts and plans for my children as well.

Maybe like me, the idea of taking a step back from directing all of your children’s ways scares you a bit. Here is where I find my comfort: my Father God is my children’s Father and He loves them even more than I do.

Let’s rest securely knowing when we encourage our children to follow God, His plan for them and their lives is much better than ours.


Do you know a girl who longs to grow in confidence and live in the fullness of her God-given potential?

If so, Lynn Cowell’s new book Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants is for her! To purchase this new resource for her, click here.

9 Scriptures to Pray Over Your Girl is a must-have resource to help you pray God’s Word for your girl! Charge up your prayer life with Scriptures and claim the power of God’s promises for protection, confidence and encouragement over the girl you love! Download your FREE copy here.

Packed with honesty, encouragement and perspective-changing truth Magnetic by Lynn Cowell(available at AmazonB&NCBDeverywhere books are sold), will empower girls and young woman to reach their fullest potential by focusing on becoming who God made them to be! A girl who reflects God’s love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. A girl who will attract the right type of guy one day: one who loves God with all his heart and who will cherish her!

***To be included in this week’s drawing, share this post {share buttons below} on your favorite social media sites and leave a comment below as to why you’d like to receive a copy of Magnetic. Winners will be announced next Monday.

“Thank you so very much, friend, for helping me to share this message. I believe that as we empower young women to switch from fixating on a guy to focusing on the Guy, they can reach their fullest potential.” – Lynn

About Lynn

Lynn Cowell is a Proverbs 31 speaker and the author of several books including her newest, Magnetic: Becoming the Girl He Wants. Her passion in speaking and writing is empowering wise women to raise wiser daughters. Her husband and their three children live in North Carolina where they love to hike, raft and enjoy anything combining chocolate and peanut butter.



  1. Lynn, thank you for sharing your new book, Magnetic and your passion for teen girls with us this week. It’s a joy to have you on my blog!

  2. Needed this reminder today…hard to admit, but my lil people were driving me crazy!! It wasn’t their issue, but mine. Thank you for the wisdom you share here and encouraging me to let go of my expectations. With every bit I read about “Magnetic” I get more excited to share it with my daughters and nieces. Thanks to both of you!

  3. I would love to get this book. I have 5 granddaughters and want to share this with them…

    • Janice – I love your heart to invest in your granddaughters! I wish I had had a grandma who would have poured God’s truth into me! I wonder what changes it would have made in my life?

  4. Thank you so much, Leah, for allowing me to share where I am growing raising my kids! I hope it is encouraging to your readers today!

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