Every week I receive another email from a woman whose heart has been broken and marriage is falling apart. She’s either lost the desire to be with her husband or her husband no longer wants to be with her.
Hidden emails discovered by mistake. Sharp words that cut like a knife. Suitcases packed and sitting by the front door. Fractured relationships and broken dreams.
The stories have been numerous and my heart aches over each one.
I wish I had all the right words to tell her. A phrase or promise that would instantly solve all her marriage problems and make everything better. A perfect formula that worked for every couple – 100% guaranteed in every situation.
But the truth is, I don’t. And, yet, I know the One who holds all the answers and often times, so does she.
Maybe your marriage isn’t on it’s last leg, but you realize things aren’t completely right either. Let’s face it … marriage can be hard at times and challenging on most good days.
There’s always room for improvement ~ whether you’ve been married two years or fifty-two years.
I’m certainly not an expert in any stretch of the word but I’m happy to share what’s work for me and my husband, Keith, as we’ve been married for over 28 years. Yikes, I can’t believe I’ve been married that long!
There have been many seasons in our marriage – good and bad: building our first home, raising kids, loss of family members, financial hardships, starting a business, health issues, moving eleven times…just to name a few. Even with all that I can honestly say we are more in love today then on the day we said, “I do.” Why? Because our love has grown stronger through the struggles just as our faith has grown stronger in the Lord.
So, what has worked for us? Well, it’s been a learning process with a few key elements: putting each other first, having realistic expectations, developing communication skills, laughing a lot, praying together, respecting each other, serving together, making date nights a priority, never giving up, encouraging one another, discovering a hobby we both enjoy, tithing, applying the Word and loving unconditionally.
Above all else, the glue that continues to hold our marriage together is our relationship with God.
We have chosen to make Him the center of everything we do. He is the third strand of our triple-braded marriage cord, not easily broken (Ecclesiastes 4:12).
Is our marriage perfect? Not at all. We are two imperfect people, living one day at a time. We make mistakes and can be selfish at times. But God has been so faithful to help us through the sticky times and to strengthen our love despite our imperfections.
It’s Your Turn:
Are you struggling in your marriage? What do you wish was different?
Is your marriage healthy? What has been the keys to your marriage success?