Do you struggle with asking for help? Do you find it hard to ask someone to do a favor for you? I struggle with this all the time and I’m trying to figure out why.
If you’re like me, you rarely hesitate helping a friend who needs support. It could be something simple like picking up an extra gallon of milk while you’re at the store because your friend is home sick with the flu.
Or it might be a little more complicated like having your friend’s children stay with you for a few days while she takes a much needed anniversary getaway with her husband.
Whatever it is we’re there, right? Always ready to lend a helping hand. But when it comes to asking for help. Well, that’s completely different.
For me, some of the hardest words to string together are, “Can you do me a favor?” I avoid it at all costs.
I imagine this question comes with an invisible weight that I’m placing on someone’s shoulders. A weight that is unexpected. Unwanted. Unnecessary.
I tell myself, This is your problem not someone else’s. Figure out a solution without inconveniencing anyone in the process!
But, sometimes that’s not possible. Sometimes life gets hard and we need help in carrying the load. Sometimes we can’t do it all ourselves. Nor should we.
So what’s the solution?
Remember to do good and help each other. Gifts like this please God. Hebrews 13:16 (NLT)
I’ve always considered this verse as an instruction for me to follow and it is. But what about others in the body of Christ. Doesn’t it apply to them too?
What if we reframed our thinking to realize that when we ask someone for a favor, it’s giving them an opportunity to please God? To do good and help others. To be a blessing. To receive a blessing.
Honestly, whenever I do muster up the guts to ask someone for a favor they almost always say “yes!” Deep down inside I think that part of my problem is a little pride hovering beneath the surface, but I’ll save that topic for another week.
For now, here’s what I’m learning and trying to apply when a favor is inevitable:
* I pray and ask God who is the right person to ask for help.
* I avoid procrastinating and ask them right away. (Waiting only stressed me out)
* I ask God to bless this person in a special way because of their willingness to help me.
* I repay the favor by doing something nice in exchange for my friend.
This creates a win-win combination that benefits both of us.
It’s Your Turn
Why do you struggle with asking for help? Or is it easy for you to ask someone else for a favor? If you’ve got a helpful tip that works for you, please share it. That way we all can benefit from your insights and suggestions.
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